This is the 21st Century, just about everyone has a phone. So when the day gets long and your significant other is nowhere to be seen, modern-day technology has made the stress-relieving, bond-creating sensual act of intercourse available to you at the touch of your fingertips. Sexting, a popular phenomenon, is the promise of sex in a clever way.
Sexting works because the erotic anticipation begins as soon as the message is read. Not only is it a turn-on for most people, but it also ensures that couples have time for sex. Here are some tips to enhance and make the most of this experience:
1 – Off to a Slow Start
First, you must see what direction this conversation is going into. This means you’re not coming right out with the nasty words or sending any provocative pictures. Take the scenic route with the foreplay until it gets to a whole other level. Sexting is, after all, foreplay.
2 – Back-and-Forth
Make sure you listen to what the other person is saying and use it when responding. This is a unified sexual experience, not mere fragments of erotic events. Not only will it bind the two of you closer together but it will create a decent flow of words between the couple. It does not have to be perfect, as long as these messages have a direction to them.
3 – Attention to Detail
Some say that the key to sexting is detail. When you can’t come up with something clever offhand, then be honest and tell them just what you want to do with them. And vice versa.
4 – Be Sure to Please YOU
Don’t only tell him things HE wants to hear, be honest with him and with yourself. This way, the two of you can have the most mutually pleasing experience.
5 – Switch It Up
Effective sexting balances the desire with the effect. The desire is all the things you want to do to him and that you want him to do with you. The effect is how you feel right now, particularly as a result from what is being exchanged. So tell him how hot he makes you, in short. It’s okay to say the same thing a few times in different words, but make sure you also increase the “POW!” factor.
6 – Corrections, Corrections
Check spelling, grammar, auto-correct, etc. Nothing kills a mood quite like “I’ll Piss your body everywhere in every way.”
7 – Shutterbug
Now you want to send him a picture. Be creative, not too direct. Leave much to the imagination. A picture of your sweet, sweet rack might be good, but a picture of a stray piece of hair across your nipples will leave him wanting more. Also, DO NOT put your face within the frame. If things get bad between you two (knock on wood), you never want to be blackmailed.
8 – The Experience
Don’t forget to think of this as an intimate act between two people. Treat it as a sexual experience and picture yourself actually doing these things to this person. You will know what is appropriate and what is not. It is also important to know that you are always at liberty to say “no”. Do not volunteer anything that will make you feel uncomfortable. Never feel pressured into doing anything, this is supposed to be fun.
9 – La Fin
Don’t be abrupt, ease into the end of the conversation with something suggestive and final. Whether you tell him that you would like to “relieve some stress” is up to you. You wouldn’t up-and-leave under normal circumstances, would you?